A species of luck

Luck is the euphoria of an unexpected result purely by participation of an event. We regard someone as lucky when they beat the odds. Unfortunately the human being also base critical decisions in life on this superstition.

I have observed people in all walks of life and came to one conclusion, and that is no matter how educated or rich you are, you can be the victim of luck. Yes you read it right, the victim.

Luck is actually a myth that destroys many peoples life’s. Instead of dispelling the myth and analyzing the facts, we base rash decisions based on an emotion created by adrenalin. We get excited by the idea of playing against the odds.

Take gambling. The people that play it are all just hoping on a little bit of luck. But it is actually a mathematical game. If you sat and thought rationally, then you would never attempt it. We should veer away from luck and place our hopes in hard work.

People are fast to part with their money when they feel lucky but they are hesitant to part with it should it not retain any financial gain for them. The beggar in the street would come and ask you for enough to buy food, but yet instead you would rather take your chance in the lottery. Do we trade our social responsibility for luck?

Just for today take a look at luck and re-evaluate how much of an impact it has in your life. How many times do you refer to luck and how many times in your life have you made uninformed decisions against the mathematical facts?

Tongue - the strongest weapon

Your tongue articulates your wisdom. – Werner van Tonder

It is amazing how the strongest muscle in your body have the strongest effect on your life. This might sound cliché but the truth is that we do affect people around us and ourselves with the words we express via our tongue.

We rely on our tongue to create success and mediate our future. We fight with it and we break with it. Human nature is designed to kill. Our first instinct is that of selfishness. But think of how much more we can actually get out of life when we use this weapon as a tool. Compliments can make a huge difference at the right time. How do you react when you get attacked and abused verbally.. we go into defence mode. How about breaking the norm and seeing it from the other perspective, even if you are right, words of kindness can change the atmosphere..

Building people up with kind words are more rewarding than insults. In my experience I found that the rewards you get from positive words are success. We need to breed a new indoctrination upon our generation. How are we to succeed when we cannot tame our strongest weapon?

Mindsets are one of our biggest walls we build to protect us. Your tongue can break those walls. I am not prophesying the key to wealth and other things deemed as success, but I am talking about being content with who you are. The words rolling over your tongue are like food for your soul. What you spew out affects your ears and that in turn will clutter your heart with its contents.

I would rather want to be cluttered by understanding, comprehension, love, compassion and forgiveness than hate and all other atrocities.

Take a look at your words today on the conversing persons face and see how you kill people or how you build people up. It might be an ear opener for you.

 The right word at the right time is stronger than the biggest weapon. – Werner van Tonder

Selfishness

"Selfishness is the satisfaction of a short term goal at the expense of a long term reward" - Werner van Tonder

When last did you rate yourself on the selfish meter?

I believe that we all are guilty of this self righteous instinct. It is a easy road to follow, but it does tend to be diminutive towards our future. We ensure that our own goals are met no matter what the cost.

Climbing up the corporate ladder can be treacherous. You step on people to get on top but when you reach the top you become the prey. I do believe that you reap what you sow and when you reach your own goal through means of selfishness, you are bound to be disappointed.

In my life I have been the victim of selfish intents and it even convinced me to become of of them at some time. But it just does not pay. You become ruthless and you seem to lose all compassion. I had superiors looking down at me and becoming my puppet master pulling my strings to enforce their goals. We all have immense potential of changing situations from bad to good.

By being selfish we impoverish the poor and enrich ourselves. Some people are happy with stealing joy and they are contempt to spend other people’s hard earned money. You become hated and envied. Two contradicting statements but yet they go hand in hand.

Think of what you do to help others and where you sacrifice to lift others at your expense. We all are selfish, we all think we deserve better than the next... but do we really deserve it? Never let the selfish gain become your riches.

The Parrot Theory

The Parrot Theory dictates that we are bound to repeat history. We are born into a mould and formed by the surrounding audience. You are pre-determined, Your friends, your family, your culture, your religion and your quality of life.

If you have to choose your mould, then there would be no poverty stricken people. This then brings me to think , why is it that only the select few make it out the dark pit of poverty? That is because we mould our offspring to our own image. But we should rather take a step back and stop our selfish nature and refuse the parrot theory.

Why do we live in in our past? We populate the past unto our next generation, and with that we indoctrinate a recipe for bringing back the medieval. I observe how children emulate their parents and after looking at them, one cant help wondering just how much of an individual a person can be. A baby is a blank template imprinted only with its parents genetic features. But that is probably the closesst he or she would be to become an individual.

We need to start elaborating on what we want to accomplish in life and set options to our next generation instead of setting rules and regulations. Our future must not be a repeated vocabulary of our present or past, but rather a new chapter to our life book. 

I am of the opinion that we do not asspire to become more than what we can be but rather more of what everyone else is and want you to be. Look around, and see who you would want not to be.